Complicated grief and emdr therapy
GRIEVING YOUR LOVED ONE WHO DIED BY SUICIDE
You will never be the same person again. Your life will be divided into “before they died by suicide” and “after they died by suicide.” The only relief you get is when you sleep (when you can get it). You wake up and for a split second it’s like it didn’t happen. But then the pain comes flooding back again. There is a hole in your heart that can never be filled. You have cried so hard that it feels like your ribs are broken. You are going through the motions of life, but not living it anymore.
Death is so - permanent. How could they do it? How could they take their own life? How were they in so much pain and you just didn’t see it? Sometimes you think it’s your fault. Sometimes you tell yourself you should have done more. People don’t know what to say to you. Sometimes they try to say something but it makes it worse. Or they avoid you. You wonder if people are looking at you as the “cautionary tale,” the “at least I’m not them,” the person they compare themselves to so they can feel better about their own lives.
MEET WITH A PSYCHOLOGIST WHO UNDERSTANDS COMPLICATED GRIEF
Having had my own experience with a loved one dying by suicide, I have a unique perspective into your pain. I know that the grief related to death by suicide is a complicated process. When you begin complicated grief counseling, you will feel understood and validated. Through our work together, you can begin to process your loss and begin living your life again while honoring your loved one’s memory. You may be able to see a meaningful life “after” they died by suicide. Your life does not have to be filled with the sharp ache of grief and you do not need to carry around a sense of guilt that “I should have known,” or “If I had done more.” You may feel like you don’t deserve to have a meaningful life after this - and that is quite common - we can work on all of that together.
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